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John Meussner
Mason-McDuffie Mortgage, Conventional Loans, Jumbo Loans, FHA, 203(k), USDA, VA, - Walnut Creek, CA
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Forgive?  Always.  Forget?  Not often.  There are too many lessons to be learned from others errors or mistreatments - I remember them to avoid bad situations in the future

Jul 30, 2015 10:56 AM
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Jenna Dixon
DRA Homes | Cobb County Real Estate - Marietta, GA
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For random people, I am far more likely to forget it than I am to forgive.  Does that make any sense?  I will move onward and eventually it will no longer be a sore spot for me, forgiveness prompts me to think that I may find myself at the mercy of the offender again.  When I forget, I forget the person, the event, the feeling, etc.  My response is typically relationally specific.  The closer you are, the easier the pass.

Jul 30, 2015 10:26 AM
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Jill Moog
Coast & Country Homes and Estates, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
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I try to forgive and forget, but sometimes have trouble forgetting.

Jul 31, 2015 04:40 AM
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Andy Madrid
Hawaii Coast Realty, LLC - Kailua-Kona, HI
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Forgive and forget - if something bothers me, it lasts about 5 minutes and then I am on to something else.  Its like breakfast - I cant even remember what I had.  If I let everything bother me, I would have had a stroke by now :)

Jul 31, 2015 04:25 AM
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Hella Mitschke Rothwell
(831) 626-4000 - Honolulu, HI
Hawaii & California Real Estate Broker

Neither, I am more a "lesson learned" kind of gal.

Jul 30, 2015 05:57 PM
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • Green • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

I was just thinking about those ''second, third'' chances. I think, if someone betrayed or lied to you, took advantage of your trust, etc., they will do it again. People do not change. I do remember and try not to get 'deja vu'' with that person.

Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me!

Jul 30, 2015 05:17 PM
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Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
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depends on the transgression.  I try to be a forgive and forget, but sometimes it just won't go.

Jul 30, 2015 01:35 PM
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Jeanne Feenick
NextHome Premier - Basking Ridge, NJ
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Forgive but remember....

Jul 30, 2015 01:13 PM
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William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
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I generally forgive, but it is on the back of my mind

Jul 30, 2015 01:05 PM
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Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
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Forgive and forget.  Not doing so only hurts and inhibits me.  The other person cannot feel that.

Jul 30, 2015 12:33 PM
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Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Mostly forgive and forget, but I don't allow people to disrespect me.  Also, see my answer in your Two Part Question.  

Jul 30, 2015 10:02 AM
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Captain Wayne - Rowlett Real Estate School
REcampus Fully Accredited Florida ONLINE & Classroom Training in Destin, Pensacola Florida - Panama City Beach, FL
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Forgive and Forget Always

Jul 30, 2015 07:44 AM
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Eve Alexander
Buyers Broker of Florida - Orlando, FL
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Depends on what I need to forgive.

I just had an AR agent try to cheat me out of a $19, 208 referral fee.

Forgive?  Not a chance.

Forget?   Not a chance.

Eve

 

Jul 30, 2015 07:34 AM
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Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
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Richie Alan Naggar Real Estate Broker I'm a forgive and forget person. Those who forgive but won't forget will always remember the situation. There are far more benefits to forgive and forget.

Jul 30, 2015 07:25 AM
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Jack Lewitz
IL Real Estate Specialists - Evanston, IL

Depends what side of the fence I  am on.  I am kind if like an elephant with Alzheimer's .  Every day is new day .

Jul 30, 2015 07:07 AM
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Sharon Altier, SFR
Lawton Realty Group, Inc. - Elmhurst, IL
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Depends upon the situation.  I can totally forgive, but certain types of errors will be kept in back burner, so that future encounters with same agent I am aware of the way they handled past deals.  If someone was chronic liar, for example, I can forgive the lie, but I would question any further info from them. 

Jul 30, 2015 06:56 AM
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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
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Jenna...yes there is sense to it and room for more sense too. Carry on Jenna!

Jul 30, 2015 10:35 AM