Larry Johnston, Broker,Friends & Neighbors Real Estate, Elkhart,IN (Broker, Friends & Neighbors Real Estate and Elkhart County Subdivisions, LLC)

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Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

I don't let anyone abuse me! They might try and they get the message quickly that it won't work with me. If they don't get the message, it's bye-bye to them. I must admit it's almost never that this happens to me because my style is very much "don't mess with me" and abusers can read targets like no one else.

Aug 14, 2015 10:21 PM
Curtis Evans
Cabin Realty LLC/ USA, Licensed in Louisiana - Golden Meadow, LA

Larry, Could be Agent abuse syndrome, something to check into.

Aug 14, 2015 06:58 PM
Troy Erickson AZ Realtor (602) 295-6807
HomeSmart - Chandler, AZ
Your Chandler, Ahwatukee, and East Valley Realtor

Larry - That is a funny question. I try and not let buyers abuse me anymore, and that does make me love my job more.

Aug 14, 2015 02:43 PM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

I do not accept abuse from anyone. Life is too short.


Aug 15, 2015 05:32 AM
Stefan Winter
Real Estate in IL & NV | Owner of Real Estate Web Tech | Daily Vlogger - Las Vegas, NV
Owner - Winter Group & Real Estate Web Tech

I dont, once you become smart and successful in real estate you pick and choose who you want to work with. The extra deal is not worth the cost of health, stress or other deals.

Aug 15, 2015 02:35 AM
John McCormack, CRS
Albuquerque Homes Realty - Albuquerque, NM
Honesty, Integrity, Results, Experienced. HIRE Me!

I don't.  I use to but these days I'm not into being abused.

Aug 14, 2015 08:42 PM
TeamCHI - Complete Home Inspections, Inc.
Complete Home Inspections, Inc. - Brentwood, TN
Home Inspectons - Nashville, TN area - 615.661.029

 Good Saturday morning Larry. We are either into S&M or we just like the money. - LOL

Aug 14, 2015 07:03 PM
The Woodland Team of Texas
The Woodland Companies - Austin, TX
Land Specialists

There is a reason why Bob hired a Buyers agent to send all of his buyers to right away.

Nov 08, 2018 08:39 PM
Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

My wife and I have 5 written core values and a culture statement. When it is violated, no amount of money will make us change that.

Aug 15, 2015 09:55 AM
John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA

I treat my clients with respect and I expect the same respect in return. If not, there will be a problem which will most likely be solved by a separation.

Aug 15, 2015 09:27 AM
Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management

I'm done getting abused, by buyers and sellers. Adios! Good question though, Larry.

Aug 15, 2015 08:18 AM
Mike Rock
Complete Design - Granite Bay, CA
Granite Bay Luxury New Construction...For Less

i dont get mad, i compare their abuse to my wifes and the client seems tame. so i am happy at work :)

Aug 15, 2015 07:59 AM
Tony Lewis
Summit Real Estate Group - Valencia, CA
Summit Real Estate Group Valencia & Aliso Viejo

Larry, I feel your pain.  This seems like a question more about a bad marriage than a career.  Or if it were about a career it would be more relevant to an employee than a free agent, which we as Realtors are.  None of us Realtors need to take any type of abuse.  We only get what we allow.  Put yourself in a position of self dignity and self respect.  Create a stream of future business and choose the people that appreciate your service and work with them.  We should love our career as Realtors as we have choices.

Aug 15, 2015 04:19 AM
Richard Weeks
Dallas, TX
REALTOR®, Broker

I don't.  I'm too old for that.  Sometimes a good deal is getting out of a bad deal.

Aug 14, 2015 10:35 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

 If we are being "abused" it is because we don't respect ourselves!  We are "teachers".  We need to educate our clients as to what is acceptable.  The greatest "abuse" I know of is not respecting our time.  That is totally up to us to determine and create a balance between working with their schedules and respecting our own time. 

Aug 14, 2015 10:14 PM
Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
Carmel by the Sea, CA
Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

That's an interesting word. Why do you think you get "abused"? I know some agents are so desparate they let clients walk all over them, but that doesn't need to happen. I feel my clients can be tough, but then, that's what I signed up for. They are buying and selling an expensive commodity and they want service for us getting well paid.

Aug 14, 2015 02:51 PM
Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

I don't let buyers abuse me, Larry.  And, I'm not very much in love with this job either!

Aug 15, 2015 03:43 AM
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Larry Johnston it's a mindset. If we set the expectations right from the beginning on how we will work together and possibly have the exclusive buyers agreement signed, you will not feel like it's an abuse.

We are in relationship business. Once we create a bond between us and buyers, you will not feel like that.

Aug 15, 2015 02:02 AM
William Feela
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

I stop that right away, and I calmly explain why and how. 

Aug 15, 2015 01:55 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


You have to let someone abuse you in this instance.  We are not helpless here.  A

Aug 15, 2015 12:42 AM
Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA

Larry Johnston If you're being abused, it's because you let your buyers walk all over you. Stick to business and keep it professional.

Aug 14, 2015 10:52 PM
Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

There is 'unintended' abuse delivered by the unknowing. For these patience and more information is needed.

There is the 'unintended' abuse delivered by those following the bad directives of others. For these, patience and clarified goals will prove helpful.

There are those who deliver offense based on their deeply realized insecurity. The see goblins and trolls hidden in every shadow and around every corner. For these, patience and trust building opportunities are essential.

Some have experienced betrayal at the hands of someone they call a real estate professional. The perception of lack of choice creates a hard to control backlash toward the agent in front of them. Betrayal is addressed by proper modeling of reinforced principles of client protection.

Then there are those with a chip on their shoulder. They need to answer the question, "Do you want my help?"   Abuse is certain if you 'sell' to someone who only wants to buy. We, the real estate community, must take some credit for this outcome.

Finally, there are those whose intent is intrigue. They spent time wallowing in the toxins of the dark side and have every intent of making you quit or working you out of the deal when it is made. This always begins with, "I don't want to sign a contract."  The agent who ignores the red flag gets what they deserve.

Aug 14, 2015 10:18 PM
Joe Petrowsky
Mortgage Consultant, Right Trac Financial Group, Inc. NMLS # 2709 - Manchester, CT
Your Mortgage Consultant for Life

Good morning Larry. Hopefully it is not as bad as abuse, but as you well know buying a home and getting a mortgage can be very stressful and everyone handle it differently.

Aug 14, 2015 07:30 PM
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, KW Diversified - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Most do it out of desperation at first then out of habit after a while, why they like it is a mystery to me.

Aug 14, 2015 07:07 PM