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Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

I no longer get stressed because of bad behavior from others.  If it becomes a serious issue, I have my broker speak to their broker and try to resolve the issues.

Mar 28, 2016 04:36 AM
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Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Punch them.

Haha, only kidding of course. I just make a mental note that the next time I work with them, if I'm forced to, I would do things differently. For example, if they tend to try to change facts, I'd make sure nothing was verbal - all in writing. 

Mar 28, 2016 04:04 AM
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Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

I simply don't share it and if I feel like I have to say something I say it to the agent.

Mar 28, 2016 10:49 AM
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Sandy Padula & Norm Padula, JD, GRI
HomeSmart Realty West & Florida Realty Investments - , CA
Presence, Persistence & Perseverance

Laugh it off realizing that they will not be in this business for very long.

Mar 28, 2016 05:38 AM
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Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Broker Retired

Too late on maligning our industry! I think you have to remember who you work for - if the other agent frustrates you remember you are doing it for the buyer.

Some agents just love drama & they love to create it. Be sure that you are not one of them.

Mar 28, 2016 04:20 AM
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Eve Alexander
Buyers Broker of Florida - Tampa, FL
Exclusively Representing ONLY Tampa Home Buyers

I bitch to Mike and than am grateful that most of my friends are dog people and not real estate agents.

Eve

Mar 28, 2016 03:31 AM
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Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA

Monica Hill Brush it off and move on.

Mar 28, 2016 02:57 AM
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Monica,

Grumble for a few minutes, then move on.  It is part and parcel of life in general as well as any industry and is not exclusive to real estate.  Why aggravate yourself?  A

Mar 28, 2016 02:53 AM
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

I just ignore them... I let myself vent in the privacy of my office for 5 minutes and move on. No matter what industry or profession you're in, there are people like that.

Mar 28, 2016 09:17 PM
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Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Burlington, MA
Metro Boston Homes For Sale

Monica Hill - this indeed is a big thing - and I do see it happening a lot around me...

What I do is - as per my coach, thanks , we can't control the outcome but we do control the activities we do to generate more business. Focus on that - and you'll work towards your goals.

Mar 28, 2016 03:16 PM
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Debbie Laity
Cedaredge Land Company - Cedaredge, CO
Your Real Estate Resource for Delta County, CO

A punching bag. 

Mar 28, 2016 12:06 PM
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Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, KW Diversified - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Talk to them, or talk to a close friend or coworker.

 

Mar 28, 2016 11:04 AM
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Alan May
Jameson Sotheby's International Realty - Evanston, IL
Home is where the hearth is.

That's what alcohol is for.

Mar 28, 2016 10:29 AM
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William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

The best way is very illeagal so I will do something else

Mar 28, 2016 10:24 AM
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Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
https://HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

Chocolate!

Mar 28, 2016 09:36 AM
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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

I will refer to the contract.  When a listing agent attempts to ride my ass throughout a transaction and demand to know when I blow my nose or wipe my bottom, I simply remind the agent it is my job ... and I've got it covered. 

There are all kinds of PITA's in the world ... don't allow their bat-crazy-making flow into your world. 

Punch a bag, drink a bag, smoke a bag ... won't really help. Medidate ... not medicate.  That's my way. 

Mar 28, 2016 07:59 AM
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Fred Hafdelin
Weichert Realtors - Mountain Lakes, NJ

I go to the gym knowing that the agent I am Po' d at will soon be a distant memory and he/she will someday run into another agent , seller or buyer thats as hard to work with as they are. Karma can be a bitch.

Mar 28, 2016 07:53 AM
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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

all things that need to be done or said are done or said in the moment needed

Mar 28, 2016 07:18 AM
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Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Take deep breaths and move on. I can't change people nor do I try. not worth getting extra gray hair. 

Mar 28, 2016 06:39 AM
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Dan Tabit
Keller Williams Bellevue - Sammamish, WA

I've ended phone calls and stated, "all further communications will be done by email, where hopefully professionalisim or the lack of it will be documented for all to see.  

I have some trusted professional confidants I can vent to safely and I offer the same service to them  We commisserate about the state of our industry at times.  

Mar 28, 2016 06:07 AM
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Sharon Altier
Coldwell Banker Realty - Elmhurst, IL
Luxury Property Specialist, CSC, SFR

Go for a very L O N G walk or get a good workout in asap, then release after.  Bikram yoga will also help unload some stress.  You then realize there is nothing we can do to control their actions, but only our response 

Mar 28, 2016 05:12 AM
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Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
Carmel by the Sea, CA
Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

Rule #1: Keep your trap shut! Knowledge is power. I have never been able to understand those who need to run off at the mouth. Life is hard, and real estate is a tough business. When others tell you things, store it away, it might become valuable information in the future. That absolutely does not mean you can be used as a verbal punching bag. Just smile and walk away or hang up the phone.

Mar 28, 2016 03:57 AM
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Bob Betel
Allstar Home Mortgage, Inc. - Sweetwater, TN
President, Allstar Home Mortgage, Inc

 I always stick to the issues of the transaction or business. If I run into business people that don't "behave", I tell them what the problem is and to act professionally. I really don't care on their tone or how they do things, just get it done. I work alone, so spreading the word only goes so far. I would not talk about other agents, if I were an agent. That is not ethical.

 

Mar 28, 2016 03:44 AM
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Noah Seidenberg
Coldwell Banker - Evanston, IL
Chicagoland and Suburbs (800) 858-7917

Exercise, I have an Elliptical.

Apr 03, 2016 01:44 PM
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Richard Weeks
Dallas, TX
REALTOR®, Broker

Be professional, don't stoop to their level, don't be bullied.

Mar 28, 2016 10:36 PM
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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Count to ten!

Mar 28, 2016 09:50 PM
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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I bite my lip daily

Mar 28, 2016 04:36 PM
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Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management

The industry is already maligned... mostly by bad practitioners within it. Think Karma.

Mar 28, 2016 12:47 PM
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Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

I have a great way of de-stressing from any situation....I go to the gym for 20 - 30 minues with my grappling gloves and workout on the big bag....  I give that bag a name!!!! 

Mar 28, 2016 03:46 AM
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Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

Most ethical way! How did that get thrown in? Are you actually seeking a response related to morality or a moral lifestyle? Such a response would actually address the 'gossip and maligning' concern.

So, take ten minutes, and, for the offending party, sincerely pray for their well-being, prosperity and good health. You can not stay angry at those for whom you pray for 10 minutes and the deity will pinch your lips closed when you are tempted to gossip.

But you may be more receptive to "take a deep breath, return to your center (place of peace) and resume.

Mar 28, 2016 03:01 AM