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Rainmaker
1,502,848
Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
https://HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

Huh?  What did you say?  Sorry was distracted by food.

May 11, 2016 03:11 AM
Ambassador
1,452,619
Susan Emo
Sotheby's International Realty Canada - Brokerage - Kingston, ON
Kingston and the 1000 Islands Area

Yikes - that's a difficult one!  

I have many male friends who are excellent at hearing but fail miserably at listening: two different skill sets! 

I also know many women who are too busy thinking of how they will respond instead of paying attention to what is being said. 

Of course I know both who are great listeners. 

May 11, 2016 02:46 AM
Rainmaker
582,106
Eric Kodner
Madeline Island Realty - La Pointe, WI
CRS, Madeline Island Realty, LaPointe, WI 54850 -

Why would anyone in their right mind want to get into an argument about a question like this one?

May 11, 2016 02:53 AM
Rainmaker
3,340,443
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

Now Dorie...haven't you heard..."After they say I Do...They Don't".....

May 11, 2016 03:27 AM
Rainmaker
1,513,143
Raymond E. Camp
Ontario, NY

I hope you were not really looking for an answer from the men!

I have been told I have selective hearing and if it about money deaf!

May 11, 2016 04:11 AM
Rainmaker
290,969
Allie Angeloni
Long Realty - Oro Valley, AZ

Interesting question Dorie Dillard!  I've noticed that more women multi-task, while more men (that I have worked with in other career fields also) focus just on the one task in front of them.  That being said, I think both are good listeners - what I have noticed though, is that those who are always 'talking' are not necessarily 'listening' for that exact reason!

May 11, 2016 04:04 AM
Rainmaker
1,052,056
Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

My husband asks "Did you just use your 'wife ears' or did you actually HEAR ME?"  And I give my husband 'pop quizzes' when he PRETENDS not to hear me but I know he really DID. ;)
Answer: No. Probably not.

May 11, 2016 03:01 AM
Rainmaker
1,027,602
Susan Haughton
Long and Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545 - Alexandria, VA
Susan & Mindy Team...Honesty. Integrity. Results.

LOL...definitely going with Eric Kodner on this one!  LOL

May 11, 2016 02:56 AM
Rainmaker
989,652
Jennifer Mackay
Counts Real Estate Group, Inc. - Panama City, FL
Your Bay County Florida Realtor 850.774.6582

Did you say something? LOL

IMO it depends on the subject and the relationship - just ask my husband if he listens to me!

May 11, 2016 10:06 PM
Rainmaker
1,683,912
Larry Johnston
Broker, Friends & Neighbors Real Estate and Elkhart County Subdivisions, LLC - Elkhart, IN
Broker,Friends & Neighbors Real Estate, Elkhart,IN

How can you listen when you're talking.  We have talkers in men and women, so it depends on the person.

May 11, 2016 01:57 PM
Rainmaker
3,988,007
Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

At my house it is the female sector that is the better listener and that is me.

May 11, 2016 12:32 PM
Rainer
69,794
Shawn and Angela Miller
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Amabassador Real Estate - Lincoln, NE
Lincoln and Omaha, NE REALTORS®

Women listen better for sure, unless they are shopping and see a bright and shiney purse or shoes.

May 11, 2016 06:06 AM
Rainmaker
1,844,171
Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Broker Retired

I was going to say women but not necessarily. How that for a wishy-washy answer.

May 11, 2016 03:27 AM
Rainmaker
5,868,372
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

I think it depends on the person! 

May 14, 2016 12:20 AM
Rainmaker
2,182,502
Michael J. Perry
KW Elite - Lancaster, PA
Lancaster, PA Relo Specialist

No right answer to this question !

May 13, 2016 12:21 AM
Rainmaker
7,835,234
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Women.

May 11, 2016 11:36 PM
Rainmaker
5,215,523
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Larry Johnston summed it up well! No further comment necessary.

May 11, 2016 11:10 PM
Rainmaker
4,571,606
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

What's the question?   Ohhh, bright, shiny object.   

May 11, 2016 10:55 PM
Rainmaker
4,434,127
Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

I do not know. 

May 11, 2016 10:32 PM
Rainmaker
1,196,912
Peter Mohylsky, Beach Expert
PMI. Destin - Miramar Beach, FL
Call me at 850-517-7098

Listening is a learned trait. We should listen twice as much as we speak.  Two ears and only on mouth.  Don't speak unless your words add something to the silence. 

May 11, 2016 09:12 PM
Rainmaker
4,319,419
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Dorie Dillard if you ask men they will say women - reality is....

May 11, 2016 04:41 PM
Ambassador
3,727,873
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@Properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Men.

May 11, 2016 04:31 PM
Rainmaker
2,707,721
Lisa Von Domek
Lisa Von Domek Team - Dallas, TX
....Experience Isn't Expensive.... It's Priceless!

I'm sorry Dorie Dillard , what were you saying? 

Seriously, though, I will say neither

May 11, 2016 02:12 PM
Rainer
35,544
Corey R. Roberts
Keller Williams Realty—Yuba Sutter - Yuba City, CA
Turning Dreams into Realty.

What?

 

Just kidding. I don't think you can generalize this kinda statement, as I'm sure we all have countless examples for either.

May 11, 2016 12:05 PM
Rainmaker
1,771,867
Noah Seidenberg
Coldwell Banker - Evanston, IL
Chicagoland and Suburbs (800) 858-7917

I think women are Dorie.

May 11, 2016 11:54 AM
Rainmaker
3,986,258
William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

I have seen both

May 11, 2016 10:20 AM
Ambassador
2,684,009
Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

Yes.

May 11, 2016 08:25 AM
Ambassador
6,392,889
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, KW Diversified - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Depends on the individual, my wife is much better than I am.

May 11, 2016 07:30 AM
Rainmaker
3,626,530
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR

Hands down women

May 11, 2016 07:19 AM
Rainmaker
5,772,575
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Dorie,

It depends, Ron is a wonderful listener, and many of our male friends are also, as well as our female friends.  

May 11, 2016 07:16 AM
Rainmaker
2,781,013
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Women lead the way but men are not to be left out. Subjective to be sure

May 11, 2016 06:31 AM
Rainmaker
2,810,149
Dick Greenberg
New Paradigm Partners LLC - Fort Collins, CO
Northern Colorado Residential Real Estate

Hi Dorie - Mary was talking about that just the other day, but I can't remember what she said. I listened extremely well, but I just forgot :)

May 11, 2016 06:30 AM
Rainmaker
1,209,215
Amanda Christiansen
Christiansen Group Realty (260)704-0843 - Fort Wayne, IN
Christiansen Group Realty

I don't think it's a male/female thing at all.  

May 11, 2016 05:45 AM
Rainmaker
1,157,785
FN LN
Toronto, ON

It depends on the individual.

May 11, 2016 05:17 AM
Rainer
216,904
Sharon Altier
Coldwell Banker Realty - Elmhurst, IL
Luxury Property Specialist, CSC, SFR

Hate to think it is gender specific.  However, if that is so, then we need to be better at teaching children this lesson early on in life!

May 11, 2016 05:06 AM
Rainmaker
864,658
Les & Sarah Oswald
Realty One Group - Eastvale, CA
Broker, Realtor and Investor

It depends on the individual. But I am leaning toward women, as men tend to tune out during conversations longer than 5 minutes.

May 11, 2016 04:30 AM
Rainmaker
4,800,082
Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

I'm sorry, I missed what you said!  

May 11, 2016 04:30 AM
Rainmaker
1,725,896
Sandy Padula & Norm Padula, JD, GRI
HomeSmart Realty West & Florida Realty Investments - , CA
Presence, Persistence & Perseverance

Men are, we just are pros at not retaining the minute details that women never seem to forget.

May 11, 2016 04:20 AM
Ambassador
3,344,906
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

Some men, and some women are better listeners. 

Some children are better listeners than some adults. 

May 11, 2016 04:18 AM
Rainmaker
921,504
Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

The quality of the listening is directly related to the content of the sound.

Men and women fade out equally fast when the content is 'all about the speaker.'

However, I find men are more able to get the conversation back onto known ground with a simple, "How about those Bucks!" 

Everyone laughs and then reset.

May 11, 2016 03:45 AM
Ambassador
1,076,531
John Meussner
Mortgages in AZ, CA, CO, DE, FL, GA, IN, MD, MN, MT, NC, NJ, NV, OK, OR, PA, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VA, WI - Fair Oaks, CA
#MortgageMadeEasy Fair Oaks, CA 484-680-4852

I will leave this one alone : )

May 11, 2016 03:39 AM
Rainmaker
1,622,432
Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

Depends on the personality. It is a rare talent:) 

Sally K. & David L. Hanson mentioned a great reminding, though. 

May 11, 2016 03:32 AM
Rainmaker
637,434
Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
Carmel by the Sea, CA
Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

Probably women, but I think they hear what they want to hear. They tend to embellish when they repeat the information. Men tend to be more straight forward listeners. Tell them something, and they take it as gospel.

May 11, 2016 03:09 AM
Rainmaker
679,404
Diana Dahlberg
1 Month Realty - Pleasant Prairie, WI
Real Estate in Kenosha, WI since 1994 262-308-3563

Listening and/or Hearing ... from my perspective for an "overall" answer ... I will say WOMEN! 

May 11, 2016 02:50 AM
Rainmaker
1,525,616
Sybil Campbell
Fernandina Beach, FL
Referral Agent Amelia Island Florida

Typically women but I think it really depends on the personality type too.

May 11, 2016 02:43 AM