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Most divorcing couples simply want the property sold so they can get on with their lives. One that gave me headaches was a couple who decided to divorce in the middle of their listing - YIKES!
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Can't say we have made any
I do not recall any mistakes.
My biggest mistake was deciding to work with them! Talk about War of the Roses!
I don't, therefore I have no issues..
So far so good....treat both parties fairly and never take sides.
I learned to be extremely neutral!
I guess, the biggest mistakes can be taking sides or giving advice. I try to stay neutral and friendly to either party.
Having them at closing at the same time.
Jody Bruns, CDLP
No room for mistakes when working with any customers.
Most mistakes can be avoided by treating each party equal and letting them know that. There is always one spouse that is angrier than the other and that causes problems
I sided with the wrong client and the other was the dominant one, and got squeezed out.
I learned with a couple years ago that I was NEVER going to talk to only one of them. That was the biggest mistake I ever made. Never have done it again.
Grieving soon-to-be divorcee poured out her emotions and wanted me to console her. You know where that sort of thing leads.
No mistake made; I stopped it in its tracks by referring them to another Broker.
I've worked with one divorce situation and it went fairly smoothly.
The biggest mistake may be in working with them.
I will read your post now, thanks for the advice.
I have not worked with many client's going through a divorce.
Allowing myself to be put in the middle. I now make it clear I will not mediate and am only involved to get the property sold and expect both of their cooperation to do that.
Sitting between the two at the closing table.
No mistakes just lots of communication & focus issues...all good & doable
Somehow I have not worked with divorcing couples as my clients; helped buyers purchase from some. Husband's clothes were in the basement.
I don't think i've made any mistakes when dealing with divorcing parties.
Not realizing early on in my career that in Minneso0ta, if one of the partners in the divorce signe a Purchase Agreement the ex-spouse to be is automatically on that agrrement and has the right to 50% of any equity it may have established
Treat both parties fairly and don't play favorites.
I've only had a couple and they've been fine. I did have one rough go of a divorce situation but I was on the other side of the transaction. They began negotiating their divorce settlement during the transaction ie - I won't sign until you give me access to.... OK I won't sign unless I get.... kind of thing. This went on for over a month just trying to get mutual acceptance. My buyer couldn't take it any more and walked.
I have never worked with a couple that was actively going through a divorce. Will read responses though!
My BIGGEST mistake....hmmm, regarding divorcing clients...ohhhh,
One party was clearly at fault and literally 'gave away' their wealth. However, as the professional I needed to be, judgment could not be exhibited.
The outcome was the transgressor developed a liking to me and has, since that time, become a persistent and unrepentant, presence in my life, one of those time-holes that ask for guidance, on the same issue 87 times but has no intent of doing anything different.
Maybe I earning my wings.
I can't cut the ties because I DO SEE that due to my intervention, secure housing is in place and I must continue the fight or bad decisions will result in homeless situation.
If I knew at the start, this would have become a referral to an agent on 'The List."
Jody Bruns, CDLP
I actually have never worked with a couple going through a divorce. Lucky me I guess.
Not making sure there is a separation agreement at least so that a decision can be made.
No mistakes, just I had to do every step twice, or four times - takes longer to complete a single step. I liked very much doing that - I would always choose a slower transaction, whenever I can.
My real estate practice represents buyers only. Most people aren't divorcing when they are going out looking for a home. Thankfully I've had no personal issues and/or mistakes.
Believing that both of them were telling the truth! And getting pulled into their drama!
Not working with you on the deal!
Acting like you support one side over the other. Have done many now, and NEVER take sides.
Putting them in the same room at one time
Sometimes it's just the decision to work with them if they are at odds and not speaking. Other than that, I haven't had any issues.
I haven't worked with too many of them. I did hear about an agent once who hit on the soon to be ex-wife. That's a faux-pah for sure!
Haven't worked with that many. Though, one couple, the biggest mistake was agreeing to work with them.
Lyn Sims has this one.
I do not live in the realm of mistakes. I help people regardless of what their situation is. It is all about being of service. Divorces can be challenging.
Believing it will all go smoothly!
No mistakes. No problems. Treating each seller(and attorney if applicable) fairly seems to work.
Trying to make them both happy. LOL
None so far
Can't say I have had any issues as long as I kept them apart! Emotions run high!
Can't think of any.
I sold a listing to a buyer who is not divorced. I thought his live in sweetie was his wife and asked for deposit. She was also married to another man needing a nest.
The deed had his wife's name on it after sale.
Jody Bruns, CDLP, CMMU - that's one area I have never worked with! Closest I came was - to list after the settlement of divorce.
Underestimating how badly they might behave at settlement.
One of my early listings in my first year being licensed was a divorce. My big mistake was speaking with one more than the other thinking they were communicating. It taught me to say up front on future listings what ever I tell one the other will hear the same thing from me that way no one is left in the dark.
Oh the joys of working with divorce situations. Just closed on one and basically figured out that he goes balistic on just about anything so after a a few times of him going bonkers I said - hey this isn't going to work. The wife took over handling it all and kept him in the loop when necessary. That worked. Done and over with and I'm glad she can move on now.
none.... every one is done carefully with complete confidentiality with the parties....