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Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
https://HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

Yes.  They're dead to me now, as Mr. Wonderful would say.

Dec 02, 2017 12:07 PM
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Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

I can hardly ever wrap my mind around some of the things that I've seen and experienced. All you can do is keep your vibratory rate as high as possible, maintain equal amounts of faith and a-little-lower-than-realistic expectations. People will betray, but will also surprise pleasantly. Oh, and you only get to do it to me once. I'm Italian and you're dead to me. LOL

Dec 02, 2017 11:52 AM
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Steven Nickens
Hawaii Life Real Estate Brokers - Wailea, HI
R(S)GRI ABR, Maui Real Estate Hawaii

It always hurts, but I try to reset my thnking and move on, something else is always around the corner.

 
Dec 02, 2017 01:53 PM
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Silvia Dukes PA, Broker Associate, CRS, CIPS, SRES
Tropic Shores Realty - Ich spreche Deutsch! - Spring Hill, FL
Florida Waterfront and Country Club Living

Off the Christmas list they go....

Dec 02, 2017 12:46 PM
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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

I learned a long time ago that for the most part ... when it comes to money loyalty does not exist ... for some? most? many? people.  

I've been betrayed by family members that I thought I could count on. 

Sometimes the hurt / blow takes a long time to recover from.  

In the sporting realm Fred Griffin .... I truly could not care less. 

Dec 02, 2017 03:28 PM
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

It's part of life Fred Griffin and in fact it almost seems to be daily. As servants of the public we have to put ourselves out there but there are days I just want to stay home and be surrounded by loved ones I can count on.

Dec 02, 2017 02:14 PM
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Bob Betel
Allstar Home Mortgage, Inc. - Sweetwater, TN
President, Allstar Home Mortgage, Inc

I hired a loan processor once thinking it would leave me more time to see agents and get more business. Then 3 months later, she said that she had to quit because she was 7 months pregnant and was ordered on bed rest. Best news I've had in her 3 months of employment. I felt real sorry on the phone, then opened a bottle of champagne when we ended the phone call

Dec 02, 2017 02:09 PM
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Dave Halpern
Dave Halpern Real Estate Agent, Inc., Louisville, KY (502) 664-7827 - Louisville, KY
Louisville Short Sale Expert

Referring hot leads out to Realtors who closed the deal but somehow forget to pay the referral fee.

Now I always get them to sign a referral form.

Dec 02, 2017 02:04 PM
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Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
Carmel by the Sea, CA
Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

And then there is the other side. Sometimes those close to us expect a level of loyalty that is not reasonable. But that's another story. Whenever emotions get involved, there is that chance of imbalance. The best thing to do is not to let it derail your life, but move on. I found that often they come back and want to reestablish a relationship. And when that happens, it is never the same as before, because now I am armed with how far I will go with that "friendship". 

Dec 02, 2017 01:38 PM
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

I think that Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA and Candice A. Donofrio said it perfectly. A

Dec 03, 2017 03:15 PM
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Anthony Acosta - ALLATLANTAcondos.com
Harry Norman, REALTORS® - Atlanta, GA
Associate Broker

Dec 03, 2017 11:45 AM
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Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

As I get older, I get both softer and harder all at the same time. What I mean by that, is whenever I see people doing good for others, now I cry. It's so sweet and meaningful. Those people, who do good, are heroes to me.  And when I see people doing bad, I just write them off. I don't care about them. Even if I did at some point, now they're just not important. I don't have time or the energy to spend on these people.

As for betrayal.... A coach leaving without an explanation? That wouldn't be a betrayal to me personally. Someone I care for walking away from me? Well, that would suck, but it would be their mistake and I'd live. Someone f**king me over? Adios, dude, you're dead to me.

Dec 02, 2017 04:41 PM
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Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

he probably did the players a favor by leaving the emotion out of it.... 

Dec 02, 2017 03:13 PM
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Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Ouch!

 

Not even a goodye(farewell) kiss?

Dec 02, 2017 02:53 PM
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Kevin J. May
Florida Supreme Realty - Hobe Sound, FL
Serving the Treasure & Paradise Coasts of Florida

The offending party knows what they've done to deserve their come uppance. When I reach that point I nix the relationship without further adieu. It's not common however at times it's necessary.

Dec 02, 2017 02:31 PM
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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Before developing the skills that allowed me to rise above the nonsense, this dynamic and more was successful. Betrayal indicates treachery. Treachery indicates a trust issue that supports potential deceptions and therein lies the core of it all.  The unpredictable human nature under fire and duress and the outsourcing of it. Take responsbility & travel with eyes open insuring a more positive outcome from doing all you can

Dec 02, 2017 02:30 PM
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Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Fred, I guess if you live long enough it will happen. I've had friends and clients do it over the past 25 years, and it always stings, but you move on. Most of the time, it comes as a blessing, but sometimes, it comes as a shock. 

Dec 02, 2017 01:49 PM
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Fortunately, I've not had this happen with anyone that I looked up to or counted on. I was betrayed once by a client and I've refused to speak with her since. At one point feeling my silence she sent a note trying to explain herself... it didn't help... she showed me her true colors and I have had nothing to do with her since. Funnily enough, today I received a text message from her asking for prayers for her daughter who is undergoing brain surgery next week. I will respond politely as her daughter isn't at fault here... but she and I are through.

Dec 02, 2017 12:50 PM
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Raj Taj
RE/MAX - Lake Bluff, IL
Drive By Blessings!

All the time, not well. I do humor to keep things positive though.

Dec 02, 2017 12:31 PM
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Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Move on.

Dec 02, 2017 11:50 AM
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Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA

Fred Griffin Life is too short to hold a grudge against anyone. In the end the harm is on yourself. As far as Jimbo fisher quiting, someone else will take his place and this will be long forgotten.

Dec 03, 2017 06:38 AM
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Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

I have been betrayed on rare occasions.  Though, I have never put my trust or faith in either politicians or sports figures, so never by any of those actors.

Dec 03, 2017 06:19 AM
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Doug Dawes
Keller Williams Evolution - 447 Boston Street, Suite #5, Topsfield, MA - Topsfield, MA
Your Personal Realtor®

Happens all the time. Sometimes it's not intentional and other times it is. I just suck it up and move forward. 

Dec 03, 2017 05:52 AM
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Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

A former broker allowed an agent in the office to treat me badly. That felt like abandonment for a time as he should have cleared the air. I felt like ignoring it was poor management.

Dec 02, 2017 09:54 PM
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

Yes, of course, I lived some time and had it all, from all kind of people. Before I reacted intensely and it was not easy, now: not that much. I'm not responsible for what other people do, but I can make a choice what  I do about it.

Dec 02, 2017 09:39 PM
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Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

I have been betrayed more than once.  I just dust off my seat of my pants and move on.

Dec 02, 2017 05:15 PM
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Steve Penner
Royal LePage Dynamic RE / Pro Ledger Bookkeeping Software - Winnipeg, MB
REALTOR® / Pro Ledger Online (owner)

Here is my internal "self talk"....  90 - 95% will be good clients... and there will be the odd disappointment.  Now the question becomes... where do I focus my attention?... on the 95% good.. or the 5% bad? 

Too easy to let the disappointment drain the life out of you... the last thing you want is to have it sour you or dampen your enthusiasm and love for your work. 

I think best to "learn from the experience" then "move on" as quickly as possible .. as the disappointments simply take too much time and energy that could be spent elsewhere.... go get some more good ones!

Dec 02, 2017 05:02 PM
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Oh my gosh, Fred, I was shocked at this! The ONLY break he could possibly get is if we find out there's more to this story than his chasing earning potential. Something that FSU did or pushed him to do...

The picture of the new 'live' tree at his curb was just disturbing to me - like he couldn't get out fast enough; he couldn't allow his family to celebrate Christmas in Tallahassee? WHAT?

Just not saying anything to the players is bad enough - but, the entire city, fans and alumni?? I'm still shaking my head at this one.

Dec 03, 2017 09:07 PM
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Nathan Gesner
American West Realty and Management - Cody, WY
Broker / Property Manager

I felt that when my first wife left me over 20 years ago. The feeling lasted for a couple weeks and then turned into a great sense of relief!!! ;)

Dec 03, 2017 07:43 AM
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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Jimbo was supposedly offered 75 million guaranteed over 10 years! I would say he made the right choice. Money talks!

Dec 03, 2017 06:12 AM
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Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

I am feeling the way and actually even mentioned it in my blog today. His heart wa snot in it all year and the players coudl see and feel it. He ran away for a paycheck. Funny thing when someone took a picture of his Christmas tree on the curb Friday am, I knew he was gone. Not telling the players was just a big A@# move

Dec 03, 2017 05:47 AM
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Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Broker Retired

Gee ... I thought it was for something really important ....

Dec 03, 2017 05:46 AM
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Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

I think of Labron James.

I think of every politician.

I think of 'take your business to the next level.'

Everyone has their game and that does not exclude real estate agents.

The felon friendly NLF and their farm teams, college football, are for those of a weak mind who choose to invest emotion into a system that is corrupt. Why is betrayal a shocker in a corrupt system disguised as education?

As related to all things real estate, agents are betrayed at every turn in the road, from association, to broker to franchise.

And what do we do? Chant 'Raise the bar," as if it is a agent problem.

Dec 03, 2017 05:41 AM
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Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers
Serving the Greater Phoenix and Scottsdale Metropolitan Area - Scottsdale, AZ
Haven Express @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty

Steven Nickens nailed this one!

Dec 03, 2017 03:21 AM
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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I used it as a learning experience and forgot about it...

Dec 02, 2017 10:44 PM
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Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, KW Diversified - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

I was not too impressed with that tax raise I got today, how about you?

Dec 02, 2017 09:40 PM
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Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

It happens.

Dec 02, 2017 08:28 PM
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Diana Dahlberg
1 Month Realty - Pleasant Prairie, WI
Real Estate in Kenosha, WI since 1994 262-308-3563

I've learned that you can make everyone happy!  I would just move on.

Dec 02, 2017 03:49 PM
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Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

No.

Dec 03, 2017 04:06 AM
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William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Nothing that bbothered me all that much

Dec 02, 2017 09:18 PM
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Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

We see it often, need to dust yourself off, and move on.

Dec 05, 2017 01:29 PM
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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

One of my best friends screw me over, oh well, I moved on now.

 

Dec 05, 2017 11:38 AM