Liz and Bill Spear,  RE/MAX Elite Warren County OH (Cincinnati/Dayton) (RE/MAX Elite 513.520.5305

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Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

Great question, Bill - probably 'b' until I've finally had it! 

Right now, there is so much going on that I wouldn't even need to look for another place to spend my time. 

I've also found that management may 'say' they care - if they care, they would do something to make those who 'work' for them, know they are appreciated.

May 19, 2019 03:52 PM
Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

 A lot of that will depend on the cause, if the work I was doing was truly helping those who deserved it.

You picked the right day to ask! I just threw back a new client I don't believe will place the same value on me that I place on me.

In fact, I don't want to be around ANYONE who doesn't value me!

Put me down for C.

Like the note!

May 19, 2019 03:51 PM
Doug Dawes
Keller Williams Realty - Topsfield, MA - Georgetown, MA
Your Personal Realtor®


May 19, 2019 08:26 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

There is a difference between a professional relationship and one of a voluntary nature.  The answer likely includes aspects of personal enrichment, people I like/respect within the organization, the standards/goals I find beneficial and others.  

May 19, 2019 05:44 PM
Brian L. Sirota, Esq.
Bristar Realty (Realtor/Attorney) - Orange, CA
For Solutions: (714) 501-7660

Bill, this is an interesting question, especially in the context of Liz's volunteer work.  

Early in my legal career, a mentor shared advice that struck me as counter-intuitive.    She cautioned, pro bono clients would likely be among my least grateful clients.   The observation proved to have occasional merit, as well as the lack of cooperation appearing correlated with non paying clients.   Go figure.

From a sense of public service, I will still screen for appropriate pro bono cases, but sometimes I want to scream, "help me, help you!"  

On the other hand, some of those cases became deeply satisfying on a personal level.   It sounds like your wife might be experiencing some of that ambivalence. 

May 19, 2019 06:42 PM
Nina Hollander
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor

Option c: I move on and have numerous times throughout my professional career going back to 1971. In really large organizations a heart-to-heart is useless in my experience. And even in a smaller one often useless... I had a couple of those with a small brokerage I was with and wasn't listened to. When I quit, suddenly faced with losing one of their top agents, they wanted to listen... too little, to late at that point.

May 20, 2019 04:43 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA - Bristow, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

I would start with the heart to heart with management.  Been there and when that failed, I switched to another office. 

May 20, 2019 04:40 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Bill I find talking will fix it short term.... hence it is time to move on answer C

May 19, 2019 10:24 PM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co. Notary Services, retired Realtor

I'd go with d. Liz and Bill Spear but I'd be looking for another place to hang my shingle.

May 19, 2019 07:10 PM
Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
& Host of Postcards From Success Podcast

Anyone that questions or takes for granted my value...

"Buh bye now!"

May 19, 2019 09:44 PM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

What I have done in the past - I attempted to fix the issue with the organization first. When that did not work, I searched for another organization and left.

What I've learned is that if the organization acts as though they do not value you, they don't. And it's a reflection on them. So if this ever happens to me in the future, I'd probably just leave, without trying to make things better first. Life's too short.

May 20, 2019 03:08 AM
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Move on.

May 19, 2019 05:04 PM
Steve Higgins
RE/MAX Kelowna - Kelowna, BC

I would go with B slowing moving to a C. No point staying with someone that doesn't value your time and service. 

May 19, 2019 04:49 PM
Susan Emo
Sotheby's International Realty Canada - Brokerage - Kingston, ON
Kingston and the 1000 Islands Area

For me it is a B until I can manage a C.  Been there, done that!

May 19, 2019 04:30 PM
Dan Pittsenbarger
Keller Williams Western Realty - Bellingham, WA
Improving Conditions

For me it would be "e" Other. 

First I would re-evaluate myself any my purpose for doing what I was doing.  Secondly I would write down any and all, big or small, actions or inactions that I did or failed to do that were to some degree not in the groups best interest (ie blow off a meeting I "should" have gone to, not return a call, belittle another group memeber, not do something I said I would or otherwise indicated I would do, bad mouthed the group - either any of the projects or one or more members or the group or how it works or how it's structured - to another person either to "vent" or to actively gain support for my point of view/opinion which resulted in the person(s) I'm talking to thinking less of the group or something related to the group. And once that is all out there in front of me so I can see all the things big and/or small in significance, and say yes I did (or didn't do those) those actions. And take full responsibility for my actions or inactions, then I will probably feel better about the group as long as the group actually has a purpose of doing good and is at least to some degree in alignment with my own purposes.

Folks rarely quit/leave a good intentioned group because of anything that was done or not done "to" them. They will leave because of things they did/said  "to" the group, or for failing to do/say things they should of done/said.

So once I cleaned this point up on myself chances are the feeling of "wanting to leave" or feeling under appreciated and the pulling in of all sorts of reasons that "motivate" or foster feelings of wanting to leaving will probably be gone. For example the feeling of not being appreciated.  I doubt that feeling appreciated is the reason anyone joins any group - it is part of the "pay" for sure,  but it's not "usually" the purpose for joining a group. The purpose usually lies in the area of "help"  and to help others or to help improve a condition/situation. And chances are that "help" is still needed. And giving the help is the real pay - not recognition from one's team mates.

Now that I have myself cleaned up, I then would evaluate the group and it's purpose and decide based on the greatest good, if continuing with the group is the highest and best use of my time and energy or should I be doing something else that creates a bigger and more pro-survival impact on my life, my family and the community. If the clean up step isn't done thoroughly, the answer to the second part will almost always be  I should be doing something else. If the clean up step is done fully, then most of the time the person's original purpose for joining the group/activity will be revitalized and they are happy to carry on.  For those that have actually grown and now need a bigger game - they will move on to bigger more demanding activity.

Wow. Sometime I get carried away.  Sorry about that but that is what I would do.

May 20, 2019 06:38 AM
Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

I would need to put this into context first, then have time for a non -judgmental decision.

May 20, 2019 03:46 AM
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams Fox Cities - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

D is generally the best route for you and those in charge.

May 19, 2019 06:21 PM
Michael J. Perry
KW Elite - Lancaster, PA
Lancaster, PA Relo Specialist


May 19, 2019 05:47 PM
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Franklin, MA
Marketing Agent for The Todaro Team

if it's a brokerage, jump ship....

May 19, 2019 05:15 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

Sometimes "seems" is a perception because one is truly highly valued but being taken for granted.  I would say D first then decide from there. 

May 20, 2019 06:54 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Simple! Time to move on!

May 20, 2019 04:21 AM
John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA

d. All of the above

May 19, 2019 05:14 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate

e. Perhaps a combination of b and c.  Life is way to short to accept less than what we know we want.  I would not have a heart to heart.  Been there. Done that.  My experience is it does more harm than good.  

I would create my happy place and move on.  I did that when I went independent in January 2012. 

May 20, 2019 07:17 AM
Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

I would seek that hear t to heart talk and then move on if not satisfied. That is why i work for myself

May 20, 2019 05:07 AM
Brenda Mayette
Miranda Real Estate Group, Inc. - Glenville, NY
Getting results w/ knowledge & know-how!

B & C

May 20, 2019 04:35 AM
Rose Mary Justice
Synergy Realty Pros - Dandridge, TN
Synergy Realty Pros

b c d depending on the circumstances.

May 20, 2019 04:13 AM
Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573
Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker

Sounds like you don't feel appreciated... or part of the team as the odd man or woman out. You would not lessen involvement and hang around and should communicate the issues to see if resolution can happen. But it may be time to venture out on your own and build your own organization. If close to retirement, you might just ride it through. Are you doing a good job and is your performance up to par? Is it a personality conflict? Just list more, market harder and sell sell sell and you won't get bogged down with "I am not appreciated". The need for that goes away. 

May 20, 2019 03:48 AM
Bob Betel
Allstar Home Mortgage, Inc. - Sweetwater, TN
President, Allstar Home Mortgage, Inc

It’s so easy for people here to tell you to just quit and move on, but they are not the ones affected. While it’s hard to give you advice while not knowing the details, my answer to you is to analyze the situation, speak directly to the person about the issues you have, and solve the problem. If the problem can’t be corrected, it’s time to leave. But remember, the grass is always not greener on the other side

May 20, 2019 06:32 AM
Richard Bazinet /MBA, CRS, ABR
West USA Realty - Scottsdale, AZ
Phoenix Scottsdale. Sellers, Buyers & Relocations

d. Did that to no avail. So I c. not too long ago.

May 20, 2019 05:38 AM
Harry Norman, REALTORS® - Atlanta, GA
Associate Broker

Leave and find a place that recognizes and value my services. 

May 20, 2019 10:42 AM
Richard Weeks
Dallas, TX
REALTOR®, Broker


May 20, 2019 05:43 AM
Sharon Altier, SFR
Lawton Realty Group, Inc. - Elmhurst, IL
Your Real Estate Partner should never feel that you do not have value or contribution not appreciated. Life is too short!  You want to leave before it adversely affects you. 

May 20, 2019 01:43 PM
Mike Cooper, GRI
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

I'd probably do D and if that didn't create a better environment, I'd move on. I read a book about 20 years ago called the Baby Boomerang. I told my clergy friends that when my church became the church in the book, I was done. And, I was. I had invested 20 years as the pastor with incredible results, but when the church turned inward and became more self-interested than outreach interested I was gone. I've never regretted that decision. 

May 20, 2019 11:56 AM
Maria Sapio
Keller Williams of Central PA - Carlisle, PA
Real Estate Agent- Carlisle, PA.

If I think it would be productive then 'd' - if not, then 'b' leading into 'c.' 

May 20, 2019 10:53 AM
Lyn Sims
RE/MAX Suburban - Schaumburg, IL
Schaumburg Real Estate

Even with volunteer work you have to feel valued. Maybe in that situation the manager/in charge person really shouldn't be there? Not everyone can be a cheerleader. Not everyone knows that people have to hear they are appreciated. (is this a man we're talking about lol).

May 20, 2019 10:37 AM
Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

"....seems as though they no longer value your services..."

I am not sure what that means.

If I'm a volunteer and not feeling the love, I go and do something else for for someone else.

I the 'Good bye' option is not available, "D" is the best course of action.

I'd start, "Hey Boss Man, over the past 3 months I've made about 1,800,422 suggestions regarding how business can be grown, delivery improved and moral grown. I feel I am making a contribution but I'm not seeing any real appreciation or acknowledgment from management. Help me out here. Why are my suggesting being ignored or what has changed regarding the company vision?"

Of course, it can be easily seen I will not HEAR what the BossMan says until I become a listener, and that tends to change things a LOT.

The real answer to this question is the two parties have drifted apart and have lost track of each ones needs and vulnerabilities. Whether it a marriage of a business relationship, keeping track of the emotional changes is how the connect stays relevant.

This is when the skill of 'turning towards' becomes essential. This involves responding, IS there more? and listening with the heart.

An issue with this question that few understand is the lack of heart to understand if it is YOU, that perhaps this is an opportunity for improvement means you carry baggage, unfinished business into the next relationship/business and hear once more the rhyming of history.

May 20, 2019 10:36 AM
Anna Banana Kruchten Arizona's Top Banana!
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ

Bill you say - it 'seems' they no longer value your services. I'd first make sure I didn't make an emotional decision based on it 'seemed' like. And after consideration if in fact it was clear they no longer wanted my services it would be adios time. On to more enlightened paths.

May 20, 2019 10:25 AM
Kris Collis, Associate Broker
Smart Way America Realty - East Stroudsburg, PA
Professional Results you Expect 702-574-8102

Consider this, is this happening, Liz and Bill, as a way of getting your attention that your valuable time and services could be utilized more fully and in a more fulfilling manner for you, in another place, another way - something you would not have been open to receiving had the current situation not arisen? Hmmm. can always ask that inner knowing - might be surprised by the result!!

May 20, 2019 09:59 AM
AJ Heidmann ~ CRS
McEnearney Associates, Inc. - Alexandria, VA
YOUR Alexandria & Arlington, VA Real Estate Expert

Bliz ~ Interesting timing on this question regarding brokerage affiliation.  I am with a family owner brokerage that is run by the children of the founder, who are in their 60's and I don't see anyone in the next generation with the accumen or desire to carry the flag into the future.  One of these days I expect that we will have merged or been purchased, so I have a very short list of brokerages I could see myself with.  

I will go with A for a period to see how the new company rolls, but with a backup plan C.  I think that D is highly overrated except at possibly a very small company, so skip that

May 20, 2019 09:12 AM
Mel Ahrens, MBA, Kelly Right Real Estate
Kelly Right Real Estate - Hood River, OR
Customized Choices for your Real Estate Needs

D, find out if your perception is valid before making a decision w/out the needed information.  If you don't trust management, then you already have your answer, regardless of the meeting results.

May 20, 2019 08:50 AM
Sandy Padula and Norm Padula, JD, GRI
HomeSmart Realty West & Lend Smart Mortgage, Llc. - Carlsbad, CA
Presence, Persistence & Perseverance

We opt for 'e' unless we feel there remains value to us.

May 20, 2019 07:32 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

One should value themselves over all, share and be content in it. The mere being of self in its purity is the pay-off and the gift itself will direct your path

May 20, 2019 06:12 AM
Evelina Tsigelnitskaya
SIB Realty - Sunny Isles Beach, FL 305-931-6931

I don't have an answer. I am a broker. 

Sep 21, 2019 09:14 AM
Valeria Mola
SIB Realty - Miami, Sunny Isles Beach - Sunny Isles Beach, FL
305-607-0709 SIB Realty Condos for Sale and Rent

seek a heart to heart with management to address your concerns

Jul 03, 2019 10:21 AM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

D and then c - I give the organization the benefit of the doubt- or the benefit of my opinion and then I move on if it is something that I care about. 

Jun 09, 2019 04:20 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

When that happened at Safeway, that is when I went full-time in real estate.

Jun 07, 2019 02:34 PM
Lillie Painia, ABR, NHC, TAHS
Lillie L. Painia, Tri-R Realty Group - Missouri City, TX

Businesswise as well as personally, I have always favored (d) heart to heart first. However if a mutual agreement could not be reached, then I (b) lessened my involvement time before I got the hell out! Part of the beauty of real estate (for both consumers and realtors) is you can really pick and choose whom you prefer to work with/for. 

Jun 06, 2019 09:29 AM
Greg Large
ERA Real Solutions - Grove City, OH
A Tradition of Trust

D, B, C

Jun 02, 2019 01:28 PM
Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • Green • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA


D. is a good option to try first. I believe in communication and that would be my first step. Maybe I have to make changes?  I'm willing to learn why it ''seems to me that they no longer value my services''.


C. We work with people, but some people make it about themselves and their personal goals and likes. I'd definitely look for a place where they value my contributions. 


May 28, 2019 12:38 AM
Rae Dolan
Roots & Wings Realty Group / Champions Real Estate Group - Katy, TX
Real estate agent serving the Katy area

e. leave and start my own company and do thing the way I think is right.

May 23, 2019 09:32 PM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

C  -   for sure or start your own company.

May 23, 2019 08:21 AM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

C. I have before...

May 20, 2019 08:10 PM